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That’s Not My Song Anymore: Cheering Up and Moving On After Failed Relationships and Broken Hearts

Hey there friend, it's your girl Tiff, and welcome to the recap of another edition of The Life Unscripted podcast by Organized Energy.

If you are new friend stopping by to this platform: I am Tiffany Williams, and I wear many hats. I'm the founder of Organized Energy Coaching and Consulting, the author of "Is This Thing On?" (The Super Simple Guide to Planning, Launching, and Scaling Your Podcast), a certified life coach, and a passionate speaker and writer on personal and professional development topics. I love discussing holistic development and helping others grow.

Today, we're chatting about something that struck me while I was in the car listening to one of my favorite songs by one of my favorite artists. For those of you who la-la-loooove R&B Soul music (and for full transparency, lol) the song was the hit ballad "Hurt Me So Good" sung by one of theeeee most vocally talented and soulful artists on the planet- none other than the gorgeous Ms. Jazmine Sullivan, yall. In the song, the artist speaks of her struggle to let go of the toxic relationship that she is involved in with someone she deeply loves and can't seem to shake. Between that song and Ms. CoCo Jones' AMAZINGLY soulful and heartfelt ballad "ICU" (which also shares a similar sentiment), a sista' has absolutely been in her feelings (and briefly- I said BRIEFLY- in tears), unnnkay?

The timeliness of these two songs being chart-topping hits that are played over and over again on most R&B radio stations across the nation and abroad has been impeccable, especially since I have recently experienced the disappointment of a failed relationship of sorts.

SO there I was, sitting in my car when the song came on. Like clockwork, I was ready to turn up the volume and sing along in an effort to vocalize my heartbreak to a beautiful beat, perfectly accompanied by tear-jerking lyrics so eloquently and masterfully pieced together by the writer.

But then it hit me. No shade whatsoever on the artists and writers of these two beautifully written songs, but these songs no longer reflect my reality. The lyrics, the sentiment, the energy behind it—they don't align with how I currently feel about the people, situations, or points in my life. Each time I belt out those songs, I pick the scab of the healing that I have been working to achieve as I relive the emotional and relational trauma from the experience. (I don't have the time to tell you in such a short episode, but please believe there was a definite experience, chyyyle... smh).

And that notion got me thinking.

Why would I put my best efforts into singing such a song and give it my all, when it doesn't truly represent my current thoughts and experiences? Our words hold power, friend. What we think, what we hold in our hearts, eventually comes out as words. And from our words, our actions and decisions follow. The words we say have the potential to become the world we see.

You may argue that singing along to a song doesn't mean you believe or mean every word. Maybe you just like the beat or the music. But here's the thing—your words matter. They can help shape your reality. The Bible teaches us in Matthew 12: 34 that "out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks." The things we meditate on, the thoughts we hold in our hearts, can manifest through our words, actions, and decisions.

So, why sing songs that proclaim loss, insanity, or dependency on someone? If those sentiments aren't true for you (or you don't want them to continue being true), why vocalize those words to potentially become your reality?

Start telling yourself that YES you CAN make it without them. Tell yourself that NO you are NOT going to lose your mind or lose it all or anything else if they should decide to leave you. Tell yourself that YES you can learn to smile and laugh and move on and love again. YES you can rebound and still find happiness, peace, and joy. Learn to sing Teddy's Pendergrass's song called "It Don't Hurt Now". Or maybe you would prefer the sultry, soulful song sang by the lovely Ms. Lalah Hathaway that's entitled "On Your Own"- because, truth is... you absolutely can!

With God, all things are possible. That's what my Bible tells me in Matthew 19:26. Psalm 147:3 tells me that "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds."

Let me tell you, booskie, you have the power to change the testimony that you allow to come from your mouth. Sing a new song—one that aligns with the wonderful things you want to experience and believe to be true.

Yes, sad love songs have their place. They can help us navigate difficult times. But if you're no longer in that place or if you aspire to rise above it, find a new beat, find a new song. Don't let those old lyrics continue to shape your reality, frame of mind, or emotions. Sing words that empower you, uplift you, and reflect the truth of beautiful people, places, things, feelings, and experiences that you want to see in your life!

Remember, your words have the potential to impact you more than you realize. There have been studies conducted on the effects of sound waves and frequencies, even on water and ice crystals. I encourage you to research this fascinating phenomenon and learn more about it for yourself. Although I'm no scientist, it's fascinating to consider how words and music can influence our environment and ourselves.

The popular saying goes, "Garbage in, garbage out". Even if you're not singing along wholeheartedly, those lyrics can still affect your mindset. Don't let them trick you into believing things that aren't true for you. Sing a new song—one that aligns with your desired reality.

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Thank you for spending this time with me. I hope you have an amazing and blessed week. Stay tuned for our next episode. Bye for now!

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Tiffany Williams has a corporate background and 21+ years experience as the founder of several startups over the years.

She is an Author, Podcast Hostess with the Mostess, Accountability Partner, Mentor & Life Coach to executives, leaders, professionals, and students; a Consultant to Groups and Organizations, a Book Publisher and Inspirational, Motivational Keynote Speaker with a holistic approach to personal and professional development.

Tiffany is a passionate writer, corporate trainer, and presenter on topics such as: personal development, professional development, leadership development, brand development, holistic development, social-emotional wellness and development, youth development, organizational development, process development, and platform (book writing and podcast launching) development.

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As a mother, nature lover, vegan foodie, down-to-earth hipster who la-la-loves music and dancing with seemingly two left feet (lol), Tiffany carries love and light wherever she goes.

She believes in leading with both love and a listening ear.

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